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| Staying true to myself. |
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In my work including coaching, consultancy, seminars, groups and community roles, one on one and also my personal life. |
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Emotions (Sustained) |
My voice comes from my stomach, deep within.
My voice projects naturally it can be heard in a crowd. My voice is calming and demands attention.
My movments are fluid, I move my hands when I am speaking.
I am animated, my face tells a story, my emotions show in my eyes.
I am humourous
I am listening.
I am responsive.
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Energetic, enthusiatic, fun, optimistic, positive, trusting, excitment. |
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Emotions (Transitory) |
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Uncertainty, overwhelm. |
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Strategy A (test for beliefs & values satisified) |
I feel it in my stomach, that place within me tells me if I am on track.
It is warm.
I have a settled feeling within,
I feel at peace.
I feel my feet strong on the ground.
I feel strong in my throat, my voice feels strong.
I hear my voice, the tone light but has gravitas at the same time.
My voice has presence.
I see people who are trusting, lively and enthusiatic. There is an openness in their response. They are very receptive to what I am saying.
I see myself settled.
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I ask myself: "Who am I in this context with the people the dynamics and emotions?"
I check in with myself on how I think and feel.
99% of the time I don't remember what I have said. |
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Strategy B (test not quite satisified) |
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I check with myself, I notice and acknowledge I am off track.
I ask myself "why are you off track XXX".
I check to see if it is something internal or external.
I ask myself: "Is this a negative belief? What is unsettling me?"
I am looking for a response from within and I answer my own question.
The response comes as a feeling.
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Strategy C (test not at all satisified) |
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To get back in touch with the original feeling I put my hand on my stomach and this steadies me.
I plunge down into my inner space through my breathing.
I connect with myself and it feels like I am connecting with who I am within.
I breath deeply to allow myself to get in touch with my core again. |
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Strategy D (test cannot be satisfied) |
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I pray. |
| Enabling beliefs and values |
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I feel comfortable in my skin.
I trust whatever comes up I can handle it.
I am doing the best that I can do.
I believe in my capabilities, I belive I have strengths and abilities that work.
I know how to build good relationships.
I believe I have a good understanding of people.
I believe people are interesting. |
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Beliefs & Values About The Ability |
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| Beliefs and values about the ability |
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Definition of beliefs and values |
My presence is supportive.
I do not loose myself by being me.
I will see it through to the end.
I feel things are possible.
If I am true everything will work out fine, good will come out of this.
When I stay true to myself the greater good will happen.
Even if I am disconnected I know I am still connected.
By being me I don't get lost in the crowd of people or thoughts, I know my truth.
I trust in the moment.
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What I do enables people to move forward, they get a breakthrough.
It doesn't matter where I walk into, I am desiring to be the same within myself even though I am in different roles.
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| Core beliefs and values |
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Supporting beliefs |
I beleive in the good of man.
People are good unless they have been fucked.
We are born good.
I believe in myself.
I feel passionate about people, about the human mind.
I am passionate about people's growth and development.
I am who I am.
I trust what is happening.
Good will come out of this.
No matter what happens in the momment I know I will come through it, I know I resilient.
I am here for a reason, I believe I have a purpose, I believe in my purpose. |
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People who have had a conversation with me feel valued.
I am flexible.
I make them feel okay.
I make people feel good.
I keep it real.
I feel I am legacy for my parents. |
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| Additional Comments |
| A defining moment in my life was my primary school Head Teacher Ms Lane told my father in front of me "Rita will be someone special, she will be" I saw my father's big grin, he looked so proudly at me. |
